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It's a well-documented social phenomenon that women are expected to be nice and accommodating, especially to men, including the ones who ask us out. It puts women in an awkward situation, it makes men feel resentful and it wastes everyone's time. Online dating upends that to various degrees.
It's just as acceptable in an online space for a woman to message a man she thinks is cute as it is for a man to reach out to a woman.
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Most sites also have a variety of functions to show your interest if you're not quite ready to send a full message. You can "favorite" a person's profile, for example, letting them see that you're interested and encouraging them to go from there. You can also reject someone politely and efficiently with no or at least few hard feelings.
While there are folks who get bent of out shape when their message goes unanswered — newsflash: For a lot of women, the ability to avoid unwanted dates without risking offense or breaking social norms is an incredible relief.
And men benefit too, by going into a date with relative certainty that the person he's going out with at least finds him attractive on "paper" and in pictures. Online dating also cuts through some of the unnecessary confusion in "normal" dating.
Critics argue that finding a mate online removes serendipity and organic connection.
That's true, sort of — you do need to interact with someone in person to really evaluate a connection or a physical attraction. But you don't need to meet someone in the subway or at a bar to discern a connection. Initial offline meetings come with their own set of perils: It's easy to disrupt your social group if you go out with someone a few times and then one of you loses interest while the other feels a connection.
More troubling is connecting, dating and developing real feelings before realizing you aren't fundamentally compatible based on factors that would have been deal-breakers if you read about your partner on paper — maybe common ones like religion, politics and life goals, or specific interests like needing someone who will tolerate your playing video games for eight hours a day.
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By contrast, being clear in your own dating profile can filter out fundamentally incompatible mates. Are you, say, a liberal feminist Brooklynite who would never have sex with a Republican, considers dating someone in Queens a long-distance relationship and has actual nightmares about waking up in a suburban house with a Range Rover in the driveway?
That can all be specified. Up-front disclosure helps to find someone who fits your needs, whether you want to date someone who shares your religious values, or if you have a particular fetish that you may not want to mention on a first date but that you won't be satisfied without. Perhaps most crucially, a dating website opens up a new universe of people to meet — far more than you'll see out at the bar down the street.
Meeting dates online, just like meeting them off, comes with negatives. The most obvious is that people lie in ways large and small. My online dating profile says I'm 5'3" when I'm actually five-two-and-a-half, indicates I'd date anyone in the New York region when, in fact, wild horses couldn't drag me to Staten Island and fails to disclose that in terms of hours watched, Say Yes To The Dress might qualify as one of my favorite shows.
There is also the lack of agreed-upon rules and social conventions. After how many dates with someone do you both take down your profiles?
Usually, they'll take a photo of themselves out, or with a celeb non-posedand make it look like it's from the party pages of In-Style or something. Write them back, bust their balls, and then write something casual like the following: My number is below. Or, if you're shy and would feel more comfortable if I called, just email me your info. That's all it takes. All she needs to do is to hear your voice to know that you're for real and not some sort of psycho.
Here's the phone structure I use: Don't say hello and introduce myself. Instead, refer to a private joke from my emails such as saying, "Hi, imp," if that's her nicknameso that she automatically recognizes who it is. Break the tension right away with a pre-prepared story. Chose from any of your favorite ASF stories. Jlaix has tons of good ones if you don't have any of your own. Tease her a little into talking about herself, but only for a few minutes. It helps her feel rapport to talk about herself a little.
Use the David DeAngelo tactic: Let's just meet for a quick drink. That way, if you're a complete nutbag, I can escape with my dignity.
Make sure you have a kidding tone; usually she'll tease you back. I'm talking about this kind of place, although with Solid Personals Game you will not be making out here. You need to pre-plan two things: One is a second venue to take her to if you like her. A venue change IS key. Two, I recommend bringing friends. Pretend like you bumped into them there, if you want. It surprises her when you're with someone, and also socially proofs you.
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Greet her, then sit down with your friends. The game at first is ALL body language. I need to let her feel that she is slowly winning me over, that I'm getting comfortable with her. Also, the girl will almost always give you negative body language at first, and if you're totally open to her with your BL, it makes you seem needy and supplicative.
Trust me on this.
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It's a key subtlety. I prefer the Cube. Say, "Hey, here's a cool way to get to know each other. My friend just taught me this. When you do the Cube, you go into mini-isolation with her and shut out your friends. They will soon leave and, as you've instructed them, go to venue 5.
Now it's just you and her. While doing the Cube, you're keeping distant BL but at the same time displaying your humor and great personality. As she starts warming up to you with her BL, you may start giving her positive BL. But keep fractionating with the good BL, as if you're not sure. After a drink or two, you'll realize that she's beginning to like you.
She was doubtful at first when you met, but now you're really winning her over. You almost feel like you could kiss her, but don't. Tell her you made plans afterward, because you just planned on a short meeting, but since you're getting along so well, she may as well tag along.
Then go to a bar, a concert, wherever. You will both run into your friends here.
Hang around, joke around with them, and make sure she's included and having a good time. The time distortion of the venue change and the fractionation of being social again is really powerful.