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Is this what we have to expect now as single mums? I am all for doing things in the In Islam we are told to look at a person's character and deen and to marry for that rather than for other things. It's true, attraction is important. I singed up to one of those arabic/islamic dating sites. He parents thought getting married and having a child right a way would Nowhere in the Quran can u see GOD asking single men not to marry divorced women just. I am 24 have a 15 month old boy and I am a Muslim revert.. Alhamdullilah!! I left my previous fiancé because he used to physically and mentally.
The man still thinks of his own desires and aspirations and not of the needs of the children.
Perhaps it is my eeman that is low but I would have trouble doing this; call me selfish, but my children have already lost so much and I simply cannot do that to them, is that really a wrong thing to do? They forget that you wont necessarily get the same creature comforts guaranteed as you do here, they forget you have to pay for medical care and school fees and that some foods like fish in Dubai is super expensive.
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Thinking its all cushty just because your job as an ESL teacher provides you with accommodation, is naive. Those jobs are paid less than others and the accommodation will reflect this; top schools which pay the best, demand the best. You may be putting in greater hours over there, and if you are used to luxuries here, going without them for less money may not make you as happy as you once were just because you are in Saudi.
Many women would refuse a suitor like this but some would consider him, maybe because they are told no-one else will want them so they should take whatever they can get. The point is though, it would be a tough decision to make and one that would hurt me a lot as a mother; take away from the kids to gain a husband and father for them? Come on brothers — do the math!
Women are told not to try and change the man they married so why do men?? We should take people as they stand now, if you can handle them and are happy with their character then so be it, but if your are not happy then move on. Why then are they not revered as they deserve to be and instead looked down upon and scorned by many communities?Dating As An Indian Woman
Why are these women made to feel humiliated and isolated from their community as if they chose this path for themselves? You cannot quit and are expected to play the role of both mother and father. The pressure that you face from society is massive, you feel that everyone is waiting for you to make a wrong move which, if you make, will lead to them pouncing on you saying that your child has turned out faulty because of a lack of mothering skills that you possess — which is why you are a single mum.
It is due to this reason that many single mothers feel isolated from their community; they are not encouraged to speak up about their struggles in an attempt to console other women, rather they are warned to keep quiet and suffer alone so as not to bring shame on their families.
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There is no organisation in place for them where they can go to for help or just to meet other single Muslim mothers. There are organisations for revert sisters, people wanting to know about Islam, dawah giving charities for Muslims, even organisations for people suffering from drug abuse but ironically nothing for sisters born into a Muslim household who are single mothers.
Society just assumes that if you are a single Muslim mother that your family automatically assume their responsibility and help out; that you have a baby-sitter for when you are forced into work and that you live at home with your parents and that your father assumes your financial burden as he is meant to in Islam.
These women are not just defined by their role as mothers; they are human beings too and people tend to forget this.
Being a single Muslim mother is so different to being a non-Muslim single mother, the latter will do anything to make sure their child fits in as they do not want their child to be singled out any further; a Muslim mother has to remain within her boundaries set by Allah at all times.