I Can't Believe My Ex Girlfriend is With My Best Friend
I'll start out by quoting apaul's very gracious answer: They're not dating to hurt you but they still hurt you. It's good to recognize they can do. My Ex Girlfriend is Dating One of My Friends. I have a And come to find out, I was already good friends with a lot of them before he and I had ever met. After he . My ex girlfriend is dating my friend Wtf "[B]The best of us can find happiness in misery." She left then came on to my (then) best friend.
Don't even put yourself into that venom. Remove yourself from it and rise above. Grit your teeth, accept it, act classy and show grace to the outside world. I remember people in my neighborhood would tell me they saw them out and I would seriously cringe, and then go home and cry. The people weren't trying to be cruel, by the way. Make sure not to react in front of others because it could get back to your ex and your friend I mean, your ex friend. Plus, when the relationship ends, the only thing people will remember is how you reacted.
DO NOT make a scene and get into a girl fight with the girl. It's unproductive, psychotic and immature. You don't' have to be overly friendly to your ex and your friend.
In fact, if you are a little icy that's okay. Just don't go postal. Call your REAL girlfriends. The fact that this girl did this to you is probably making you feel insecure about girl friendships.
So, call your girls up! Call the ones you know are your true friends. They will support you more than you could have possibly imagined.
They will assure you that they are your best friends and that you are loved. The relationship probably won't last. What are the chances they are going to end up happily ever after? Especially if he or she is newly separated.
If it does, you can handle it because of tip 8. Focus on your own life. The person is obviously is a bad friend and you are getting a divorce, regardless of him or her, right? So, let them have their fun and concentrate on making your own life better.
Focus on your kids, your career, and your love life, if you choose. A good friend used to say to me, "You're on your own road.
Confront your friend and apologize. Say something like, "This isn't personal. We really like each other. I hope you understand that we don't want to hurt you.
I'm so so sorry. It's an unselfish act. I can't stop thinking about her. I'm kind of obsessed.Dating My Ex Girlfriend's Best Friend
And I think she wants to take it to the next level, too. The problem is, my friend had a deep relationship with this girl, and I think he's still kind of in love with her. So what do I do here? Can I get away with dating my friend's ex? Will he be able to handle this? Which is that people never really get over significant romantic relationships.
I don't mean that you can never be happy again after breaking up with someone. Of course you can.
But it's largely a matter of compartmentalizing. You get a new and even prettier girlfriend, or hang out with your friends more, or get into jiu jitsu or knitting. You get a new life so you don't spend all your time sitting around and crying about your old one like the baby you are. Sure, people will talk about their old relationships and say that they're "over it" or that it "wasn't meant to be," or pepper you with other related nonsense phrases, but what they mean is they're not thinking about it right now.
All of those old wounds stick around, just waiting to be re-opened.
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You're always going to feel weird when you see your ex, at least a little bit. If you're still friends with your exit wasn't that serious, or it's still serious.
And, if you date your friends' ex, you're telling your friend that your romantic feelings are more important than their happiness.
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Because they're going to see you holding hands with their ex, and remember how nice that felt, and if you think they won't envision you having sex together, you're being naive.
Of course, that's going to hurt.
It’s never OK to date your friend’s ex – and this is why
Inherently, it's a selfish thing. You're saying, "screw you and your silly emotions, I've got to get laid.
Does this mean you should never, ever date a friend's ex? It means that it's a bad idea, but that's not the same as "never do it. It's possible that you've got an uncommon romance on your hands.
Maybe this is your future wife, or muse, or whatever it is that you're looking for. If this is the case, you'd be missing out on years of potential passion if you passed up on this girl for the sake of sparing your friends' feelings.
Like I said, this is a tough one. You've got a hell of a decision to make. Accordingly, you should treat this like any other important decision, which is to say that you should get as much information as possible. First, be real with yourself.
Is this girl really special to you? Is there actually an uncommon reaction between you — some sort of deep compatibility that's worth alienating your friend for? Or is she just an attractive person who finds you attractive, too?