Anybody ever date a INTJ? | INFJ Forum
Feb 23, We met again yesterday after our Valentine's date, and I realized he was Any advice or comments related to an INTJ female & INFJ male. May 30, 26F ENFP here. Wondering if some of you could expound on the differences of dating an INTJ male (ages ) vs dating an INFJ male. For. Jul 4, That changed when I started dating an INFJ—someone who is like me in so, so many If you know an INFJ/INTJ couple, expect them to be together for a while— there is a .. I am an INTJ male engaged to an INFJ female.
Actually my first vision was like 'Barbara Eden' in the classic 'I dream of Jeannie'. Too much work for me, for sure! This post makes me ponder further. I don't know if you are old enough to recall the show, but Barbara Eden is gorgeous, it is the image that popped into my mind. Your post brings my mind there for some reason.
Perhaps you are a person of great power and mystery! I'm seeing an INFJ. It's a casual relationship so far. We like each other a lot and share similar values and interests. Right now, it could be BFF or serious relationship.
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On our last date, I acted seductively, and he responded. Nothing physical came from it, but damn it felt good. Since then, he's backed off a bit from our relationship. He finds me attractive, and he values me as a friend. But he's classic INFJ. I have a feeling that I've stirred the pot, and he's uncomfortable because a relationship with a woman should be deep, sincere and respectful, and he shouldn't be constantly wondering what she looks like naked. Do I play it cool?
Any insight on this would be appreciated. There are lots of variables like man vs. Dating is complicated enough as it is. But screw him, if he doesn't like me the way I am-- well that aside! Your INFJ must be interesting. I don't have much to add. I like what Vel and Ana say. Be yourself, it seems whatever you are doing intrigues him. Since you initiated, perhaps it is his turn to do so. I would play it cool to see what happens, instead of busting out more seduction right away!
I like to be intriguing a bit, tee hee Perhaps some discussion about his goal in your relationship, or sleuthing to find out what type of INFJ he is, will help you.INTJ INFJ
If he really likes you a lot, he probably does, because he is taking the time to spend with you. He could be waiting for the right moment, or planning something special for the two of you. I don't know how much you know about him. We take turns talking and are both really good listeners.
On this front, we get on like a house on fire. I do have to nudge him every now about communication because he sometimes seems to rely on me bringing things up before he lets it rip. Intuition-Intuition We enjoy discussing big ideas and solving the worlds troubles over dinner. We have similar views on the big things and occasionally disagree. I appreciate the viewpoint he brings to the conversation as he is very rational and everything seems to be black and white to him sometimes, which boggles my righteous, overly humanitarian mind.
We enjoy talking about the future. Him more so than me as I appear to be the risk averse one. I have attributed this to the ordinary fears of an INFJ when in any intense relationship.
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We do seem to lack interest in everyday living. I cannot say that I spend that much time obsessing over the ironing or the washing. Mind you, until earlier this year, my dear boyfriend had existed on this earth without owning an iron. We are both young professionals and I suspect a large part of our desire to succeed in our careers is so that we can hire a few assistants in later life.
Thinking-Feeling So this is where we start to diverge.
Anybody ever date a INTJ?
Me and my boyfriend are both introverted intuitive types. However, we externalise our introverted intuitive perceptions differently.
The primary difference comes down to Thinking vs Feeling. For the majority of the time, our temperaments are similar. Everything can be packaged in his little Thinker head.
The Surprising Thing About Dating an INTJ, as an INFJ
He is one of the few people I know who can take criticism and make an action plan from it without taking offence. I call him Action Plan Man. He tackled the problem with military precision and would completely phase out for an hour a day whilst completing the mission. He asked for my input throughout the whole process and he took all my feedback well and continued on his little mission. I cannot speak for him on this matter without tooting my own horn. Sometimes I notice how straightforward with me he is and have to remember not to take offence because a large part of the internalisation is to do with INFJs being sensitive to all emotions.
So when my thinker boyfriend says something bluntly without meaning anything ill at all, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from me. In this respect I do believe that this is where we are well balanced. Between us we are ablate gain a lot of different perspectives before making important decisions.
I do not like conflict and sometimes will go to great lengths to avoid this. It sometimes makes the situation more complicated than normal. We normally just laugh it off. There is a lot of affection in the relationship. I think he clocked on early on that this was my language of love and he has been exemplary.
Likewise, I also have to be very straightforward with him about my feelings as this is the way he receives my show of affection better. Judging-Judging We like to use calendars to organise ourselves. If it is not in our calendars, it is not happening. The other sends an invite and we accept or decline accordingly. It really is that simple. We are both opinionated, but this somehow has not been an issue because we are both always willing to compromise or budge.
We both like to resolve matters and have been successful at each stage. The challenge of getting to know the real him was an interesting and enjoyable one. Maybe the law of attraction cannot be boiled down to what our archetypes are and people are different.
We both have the same outlook on life and are willing to put in the work. It could just be that simple! June 6, at Please upload the coordinates of all INFJ females in the continental United States ranked by ability to withstand emotional trauma from dutch ovens.