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Hypnotica Inc's Modern Day Sexual Man reviews by real consumers and expert editors. See the good and bad of Hypnotica's advice. DSR Podcast: Interviews with experts in Dating, Sex and Relationships including scientists, psychologists etc. (formerly Dating Skills Podcast). Angel Donovan, international dating expert, podcast host, and the founder of Dating Skills Review, joins our show today! Angel shares with us.
And part of this does take a little leap of faith, right? So there is a little bit of faith [laughs] that has to be… [Angel Donovan]: Everything will be yours. So I understand that. And yes, there are anomalies. He's got a lot of stuff. And he's not in control of any of it because he wants it and he needs it, and he'll never give that up. And so he'll always be a prisoner and a slave to it, if that makes sense.
So he's not in control of his life at all. Because I was there, right? I mastered all of it. I mastered, you know, approaching women, getting phone numbers, trying to get, getting, manipulating, all that stuff.
I did it all, and there's nothing at the end of that. I have to tell you the truth. So can you give us some like practical examples? I want people really to kind of visualize how this kind of works. What kind of things happen? What kind of things do you start seeing? Well, you mean when you start practicing this and you change all this? What do you start seeing? Oh, well you… [Angel Donovan]: What are the things that people are surprised about, you know? We made that up. We are the ones who overcomplicate very simple things.
So, how simple it is. They want to take control and they want to leave and they want to get down to business, and that's what they want. So you see a girl or a couple of girls in any bar or a restaurant or anywhere in the world who are cute, right? Hey, you know what, we should continue this conversation. Can we get together? And those guys will stay for like 30 minutes, okay, the first guys.
Okay, and this happens over and over again to these girls. Over and over and over. Here comes this new guy, okay? Now, he's going to have a very short conversation with this girl. How you guys doing? Well, what are you up to? Well, listen, it was nice meeting you. And then you move on. That guy is intriguing, right? Carefreeness, dismissing himself, being cool for a couple of minutes, not hitting on them. Now, he's not ignoring them either, and he's not being mean, he's not being rude, he's not putting them down.
But he's very cool, laid back, carefree. He asked them some questions, they answered. He asked them some more questions.
It was more about them than it was about the guy. Like who is that guy? Can I reach out to you later? There's no work involved. I like being the hunter. I like making things happen. And why do you want to do all that work and make all these phone calls and leave all these messages and try to get girls, keep them interested, try to get them interested, try to get them to leave with you, try to get them on a date? Why would you try to keep doing that? Beat your head against the wall when you could just be this guy and women will do most of the work.
And remember all that work you used to do? Well, all that work is gone, right? So any of you listening, this should excite you, okay? And I want you to understand that this is not a lot of work.
That's the biggest work to be done here. The rest is simple. You will show up everywhere all the time as that right guy and the most amazing things will happen to you. So does that make sense? Yeah, it totally makes sense. What I wanted to ask you about this, now we were talking a lot about bars and clubs there.
So would you suggest that, you know, if people want to get started with this, like is the first step kind of to step away from thinking, oh, like I go out to bars three times a week to practice meeting girls? So you brought up something about charity, right?
It could be dancing or whatever, but get more involved in that community. So fundraiser or something. If you change the reason you do stuff, more stuff will happen to you. So you can still go out to practice. Just practice meeting people. Practice introducing them to each other. Practice giving and helping people and being inspired. Let's get this party started! I mean, instead of trying to get something, try to give something. And so yes, practice does make perfect. And so you should be out in the world and practicing greeting people and saying hello and approaching groups and mixed groups and all that kind of stuff that you guys know about, but with a different purpose and a different energy.
And so it starts there. Just do it with gusto and do it with passion and you will attract everybody in that class. When does that ever happen to you, right? When has that ever happened to you? You know, maybe your best friend will connect you or hook you up with someone, right? So we all have that experience. Now, as far as going to charity events and stuff, you can organize your own little charity event.
What do you guys think about that? If you guys come, can you send someone over to take the tickets? All you did was come up with the idea and connect people. So there's one thing you could do. So you could have your own little thing. You could be proactive. Young professional groups, wine tasting, young professionals for cancer, any of that kind of stuff. They have all kinds of things with all different ages, all different price ranges, and start going to some of those events. Go to one that costs 10 dollars.
And so you could find those things everywhere. Which is one thing guys complain about in nightclubs.
Without like the intimidation of standing around in a bar. The people at charity events want to be there. They want to meet other people, meet the opposite sex. And so that's another thing you can do. So you find these events, you can do your own, you can go to one. Like you can do that in the first 24 hours that you move to a new city. You could know all the players and all the hot women and all the upwardly mobile men and a whole new set of friends, instant friends. Instant lifestyle transformation, actually, is what that is, you know?
So if you did that work at home that we talked about where you change your story and all this kind of stuff and you go out as this next-level guy, you know, so those are some tips.
People are talking about things. Why are you interested? And I will say this, I will add this little thing here: So change your story. How are you guys doing? You know, I saw you looking at me. Let's talk about getting for just a minute. I want to stop you there. So when you go out there with the mindset and you want to get laid tonight or you want to meet a girl tonight, rather than just giving, just being friendly with them and letting the chips fall where they may, so I think some of the aspects that guys might reject about that is like the lack of control.
They feel like they have less control over the situation and they kind of… You know, some people that get into this, they want more control. So could you kind of talk about that, like how does that… [Brent Smith]: Well, I used to think the same thing. So you just gave away all your power. And that's another reason. That's why you will consistently never have enough.
So when I was a master pursuer and I would get five, 10 phone numbers a night, man, I was a master at it. Seven days a week. So I had such a high quantity of phone numbers and I was a master at converting them into dates, home dates, salsa dates, whatever. So much work that it was controlling me. Like I thought I was in control. And so the process controls you. They need to bring a good attitude.
They need to bring a good energy. They need to bring something that's useful. The real ratio is about 1 out of 10 girls maybe will appreciate you going up to them.
That's kind of the more realistic ratio for most guys. And even me, because you never know. Now, if you knew underneath that treasure there's another treasure 10 to 15 feet down, would you keep digging? So how far would you dig in order to get as much as treasure as you wanted?
Seven girls times four weeks is 28 girls. My vision of success is being able to hang out with who you want, when you want, however you want, at any point in time. Like I always say, the lion likes to be fed, and the lion will eat whenever he wants. Go and build that up for yourself. You could set the relationship boundaries and criteria right from the beginning. Once you have that all set up, then you create the life you want.
When you create the life you want, you get to live the life you want how you want it, when you want, and do those things, and that in itself builds a certain comfort. Like my own personal… I know you talked about the marriage thing earlier, you asked me a question, but my own personal comfort zone is I like two women that I have a relationship with, and that's normal.
That's my own comfort zone. Any more than that, I start losing track of time, I start getting a little mixed up on my managing stuff. But I was way out of balance. This is my own personal balance, like this is what makes me feel nice and content, calm, anytime I want. And I could still go out there and go meet women if I want.
That's my own choice because I set that up from the beginning. But that's where the comfort zone is. That's where contentment lies. Another thing I think a lot of guys make the mistake of is rating a woman on a scale of 1 to Scale of 1 to 10, where is she on the scale?
Well, it could be a 5. What does that mean? Oh, it just means I have this way of structuring. Your looks were a 10, your personality was a 2. It flips the balance a little bit back onto the woman when you can say that. Not meanly, just very nonchalantly. And you know what you want, go get it, and everything else is great. So what would you say about that?
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Is it because like this better approach of personality rating combined with looks or is it something that's the wrong way of thinking about it? What do you think about that? Like I said, a lot of guys are so focused on the goal of getting laid that they miss everything else in between that's fun.
When they go into that situation, you know, there are like all these girls. But that could be helping them with their end game. The juices are really flowing. So yeah, absolutely, they think about it wrong. And another thing you were just saying was about balance, and right now for you there are two women in your life and that's just about the right balance.
I think the highest I ever felt comfortable with was about three, and right now I feel comfortable with one. So it can change over life. Do you think there are different times in your life when there is this different balance? And for that time of to get kind of a dating life that you can be content with in the long run, maybe you have to gain more experience in the short run like a lot of people talk about, right? So the more experience you get the better, because you should really fine-tune what it is you want.
And I think the balance point for everyone is going to be different. Like I said, my personal thing is two. I feel content with that.Becoming More Confident - Developing Powerful States by Hypnotica- Awakening Dominant Male Attitudes
If I feel one, I feel like… I just feel a little off. Which is probably the typical guy, right? That's a pretty typical model that goes on.
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So maybe those guys are still guessing. You get more of what you want being with a third? What really fulfilled me was kind of hanging out with two which I have a relationship with or that I can feel comfortable with on that level. See, I can handle this. You can always walk away from them because in life you can do that. I saw David DeAngelo in his other seminar, he said something that made a lot of sense to me.
So is there a lot of pain along the way? If you want to really, you know, get a lot out of this and get the most out of this, is there going to be a lot of pain along the way, and if the answer is yes, how do you deal with it? How do you get over that? Because, you know, I think a lot of the guys, they want to avoid the pain, and that's kind of a big part of learning this stuff. Now, you could do one of two things.
You can soften, open up and become more open and more sensitive and more aware, or you can harden up, which a lot of guys do. So just get used to it. So just get used to it, man. There was something I read in Metawhore which I was interested in that you wrote, was that you said that whenever you cheated on a girl or you slept with someone when you were in a relationship with someone, and you can requote me if I get this wrong, you said the magic would go from the relationship.
Do you want to know what exactly that means to me? Yeah, I want to just verify that that's exactly kind of what you meant and explain what is that about. So when I came back, I felt that being pulled away from the relationship, because of the fact that I knew that this is really what I wanted over here. And I really enjoyed this and it was great, but there was still another part of me or there was still another aspect of me that craved more of a balance in feminine energy.
Once you step out of that initial frame of what that… or what you had in a relationship, that's when you lose it. But if you expand it with someone who can appreciate you for that, then it can grow. Thanks for clarifying that. I want to thank you for putting that stuff out because I know there's a lot of bullshit stuff out there. I understand exactly where he's coming from on that. Some products are better than others and that's the way it goes, especially in this time and place right now because there are so many guys that are just rehashing information.
Absolutely, and there will still be lots more to go. On that note, let me add something about the experience real quick. I look at the guys now that are like 65 and I look to the older guys that are still pretty good with women. So you keep your saw sharp because of the fact that's going to keep you ready for anything. And I think a lot of guys miss that. No, this is a great avenue and a great platform to really find self-expression and really find self-esteem, really find out who you are, and to fix it and to adjust it in such a way that you feel that perfect balance with yourself.
I totally agree with you on this point. One more little thing. So if they go there, which is hypnotica. There's just lots of good stuff that's on there. There are free trances for confidence. So I just wanted to throw that in there as well. Thanks for that, man.
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