You're not "wasting your time" if you don't know whether or not you want to end up with the person you're dating. When I started out as a journalist, a dating coach I interviewed for an article told me that a woman's 20s are for having fun and that we should only focus on. Many moons ago, people in their early twenties were all settling down, getting married and popping out children all over the shop. Now.
It's not worth it to stay with someone if all you do is fight. If you aren't married and you don't have kids, you shouldn't have to keep trying to fix your relationship. After all, you can only fix so much.
At some point you need to give it up, move on, and remember that if it's meant to be, you'll get back together. And it's definitely not worth it to stay with someone who makes you cry. You deserve to be happy, and there are plenty of people out there who would do the opposite of causing you tears.
Why not start looking for that person now? Don't move in together because you think it will save you money or because you have no one to live with and you don't want to move back in with your parents.
12 Things I Wish I Knew About Love and Dating in My Early 20s
Move in together because you love each other and because you are ready. A shared home is not a reason to stay together. An apartment is not a baby or a marriage certificate.
You don't have to keep fighting for your relationship because you've already committed to each other financially. If it's not working, it's not working, and you need to accept that.
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Don't hook up with or date your friends. If it goes well, great, but if it doesn't, your friends will either choose sides, destroying your friend group, or they won't choose sides at all and will just feel uncomfortable around the two of you.
They'll also never talk to you about it, leaving you with no one to vent to when things go south. It's never too early to start talking about what you want in life with your partner. You might find out after dating for five years that one of you wants kids and the other doesn't. But what if you found that out five years ago?
Wouldn't you want to address these types of situations now so you don't spend your 20s with someone it's just not going to work out with?
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If someone wants to be with you, they will be with you. You won't have to convince them or force them or annoy them. If two people are into each other, they will be together. Sure, love sometimes isn't enough, but it's enough to at least spark an exclusive relationship -- no work necessary. Don't compare your love life to anyone else's.
It doesn't matter if you feel like "everyone is single" or "everyone is in a relationship. If it takes you longer than your friends to find that special someone, then so be it.
Know yourself better than anyone else. Until you find your soulmate focus on taking self improvement classes, reading books, mediating, and journaling about your needs and wants that are important to you.
Really enjoy the process of learning about yourself. Be okay with everything you are and everything you are not. Because the person you end up falling in love with has to love you for everything you are AND everything you are not.
You should get clear on who you are willing to be and who you are willing not to be. Who you are to somebody is going to be more important than who you are not. Pick up the book, The 5 Love Languages, and learn which way you prefer to receive love — through words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. Find three things you passionately and authentically love doing.
The purpose that comes from connecting over a passion will carry you a long way if you end up dating and settling down together. You take the long path in life to find love.
You spent the time learning about yourself and will be an amazing partner when you finally do settle down.
I just want to clarify if you are actually interested in hanging out again. Beauty truly does come from the inside. What matters in the end is they make you feel good about yourself. Looks will fade, my friend. Focus on the feelings. Find the two most important traits for you to have in a partner and date people that align with those traits. You will communicate through everything else in the relationship and it will work out.
Focus on how the person makes you feel.
Let go of all you think you want a person to look and act like. Make sure you date all types of people.