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Can white-collar women have successful relationships with blue-collar men? Patricia and Cowboy married two years after they met. Jenny: "As a white-collar worker with a postgraduate education, I'm not comfortable dating blue-collar. Oftentimes "blue collar" jobs are trades, but still require intelligence and a skill set . So what you're really asking is, would you date someone. The two met when Karabatos was working as a hairdresser, and That said, not every woman considers blue-collar guys blue-ribbon material.
Mark and I shared a passion for movies, books, and traveling.
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When talking with Mark I never felt the need to keep my guard up because he knew everything about me and never judged me for my faults or flaws. Lamar on the other hand was sweet enough. However, around Lamar I could never fully be myself. Lamar was prepared to nitpick me for the slightest thing and when conversations grew too personal he became deaf and mute. In hindsight, I feel as if Lamar felt because of his status he had the luxury of being more judgmental. Time and time again when I was with Mark.
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On the other hand when I was with Lamar it was clear to me I was an option. Lamar is the prototype for what it is to beat the odds. He was born into poverty to a teenaged single mother, all of his childhood friends are either in the jail yard or the graveyard but somehow he made it.
Everyone including me praised him for accomplishing this feat. Talking with a few of my homegirls about our dating prospects I realized that for the most part college-educated brothers are playing the field because they know they have option after option. A few of my friends met their husbands or soon to be husbands in college. And honestly, why should they be thinking about settling down? On most college campuses women outnumber men and the men have their pick. She has her own business and does extremely well for herself.
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Not too long ago I saw them at an event and the love I saw between them was beautiful and unmistakable. Their relationship got me to thinking. The answer is nothing. I realized that what I want in a man has less to do with his pedigree and more to do with character.
I want a man who cherishes me and shares the same core values as me. My core values have nothing to do with a degree, a job title, commas on a paycheck, or something as banal as a fraternity membership.
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And to be honest many blue-collar brothers are quietly pulling in six figure salaries. One the biggest things I admire about blue-collar men is the pride they have for what they do. My grandfather was a foreman for a paper manufacturer and even as dementia erodes away at his memories he still can fondly remember the work he did and the pride he took in the products he made. That is part of the beauty of the blue-collar man, the pride that he takes in what he does.
I think of my beautiful brothers that work as car technicians. They literally keep us moving.
The problem is more in the mind-set of the partners than with having different jobs. I work in computers; he builds custom homes. We share friends and experiences; our careers haven't created a conflict.
I don't think it matters what a man does or how much he makes; it's what inside that counts. I look for trust, dedication and honesty as well as love of God and family.
He was an electrician and uncomfortable that I worked in an office, drove a nicer car and owned my place. I constantly had to fight the urge to correct his grammar. Conversations were limited to casual small talk. I've more respect for a guy who makes his own way and rules. There's less chance of jealousy, as he isn't in an enclosed area basically living with all of the women in the office.
He's usually more rugged; that's even more of a turn-on.
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The pluses may far outweigh the differences. You'll find out soon enough. See BooksIssues Tom Blake is an expert on dating after He has appeared twice on the "Today Show" and has written more than columns on dating and relationships. His "Single Again" column appears in The Orange County Register in southern California, is read worldwide and is often featured on msn.
He is a professional speaker. His book, Middle Aged and Dating Againis a humorous account of his first year of dating after his third divorce. His second book is Finding Love After How to begin, where to go, what to do. His latest book is titled How 50 Couples Found Love after