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Clearly these guys have personality and social status. Yet according to your theory they should have been rejected based solely on their looks and not even given a chance to display their social status. Further, what about Asian men is seen as so ugly? Is it Asian facial features?
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Maybe Asian women are liked because they are high in femininity and that quality is prized in women, wheras Asian men are also feminine, and this quality is disliked in men. But then this brings us back to the point I made above about masculinity — relatively feminine white guys seem to have little problem getting the hottest girls. No, it has got to be something about the perceptions of the Asian male personality, or some other non-physical aspect of Asian men, that is turning off white women.
The mystery remains as strong as ever! Asian male faces were rated as least unnatractive by every race of female in general.
That is the key point of this debate, all we can do is speak generally about this. Where women prefer their own race over others, which you would have realised if you read the study. There is no mystery to this, what you have is a study done over a period of years done by prestigious universities providing that one of the major factors why asian men generally do poorly in interracial dating is because they are seen as physically unnatractive in terms of facial features.
They want to have a handsome boyfriend just as much as a man wants a beutiful girlfriend. Some more facts from the study White women: Placing white women first which would explain why this issue irritates asian men. Yet this is not commonly discussed as asian men rate black women the least attractive. Although thats an issue for another day. Google Columbia University racial dating preferences if the link does not work for you. If asian girls want to be the subject of a white mans fetish that is their own decision.
White girls are wayyyyyy better anyway. That is all that study shows. Even to those women, though, I bet looks are a secondary consideration. Secondly, lets say for a second it IS looks that white girls are objecting to in Asian guys, against everything we know about female psychology and despite the fact that ugly white guys — who are freely considered ugly by most white people — often get hot white girls. WHAT in the Asian male look is so objectionable?
One obvious answer is their facial features. The other possibility seems to be the effeminate physique of Asian guys compared to white guys. But then we see many white guys with physiques similar to Asian men getting hot white girls all the time.
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All other factors are equal. The white woman will choose the white male. Makes sense both in reality and in the study. The reason an ugly, effeminate white guys would be with a hot white girl is the same reason an ugly, effeminate black man, would win out with a hot black woman if he were competing for her affections against an ugly, effeminate asian guy.
As is demonstrated with the above statistics. With the exception of asian women who do not discriminate against white males. The point you continue to bring up about how asian men should be considered good looking because white men find asian women goodlooking in terms of facial features.
As with many things in life the cross over appeal is low. Using your logic it would make sense that white gay guys would find asian gay guys to be attractive right?
Yet ask most asian gay guy or just do a quick search around gay personals and they will tell you its just as tough as being a straight asian guy in terms of dating especially interracially. Your logic is flawed. You have overlooked the obvious which is men and women find different facial characteristics attractive. I know that as women get older and more desperate if they are not married they much the same as men, drop their standards to match what they can still attract in a partner. This would correlate to what you say about women not caring much about looks.
I could believe this if we were talking about women aged around 40 years and over but for younger women, and I know that younger men of any race will agree with me when I say that women do care about how good looking their partner is. It answers a lot of the questions, asked by the posters here. Sex and the Asian Man http: For instance women like square, prominent jaws in men, while in women this physical feature is deeply unattractive.AA Speaker Mary Beth S. "Intimate Relationships"
But the reason for this is not the feature per se but the quality expressed by the feature square jaws are masculine. What I did was conceptually separate the physical features from the quality masculinity, etc which they expressed, and tried to see which one white girls were objecting.
I used to think that way too. It actually took me quite a long time to finally grasp that women care far more about wealth, social status, and confidence than looks, although again, looks ARE a factor. Just a secondary one. Since of course men care most about looks, women must too! Not until after age 25 did I begin to learn the facts about what women really prefer, simply by observing my surroundings and seeing what kind of guys women were with, etc.
There are 1 billion of us alone in China. There are not going to be less asians because of interracial dating. There are plenty of us out there. We live in the 21st century, harping on about the pros and cons or the right or wrong reasons about interracial dating only creates further racial distinction.
How about people date because they like that someone else, just because of who they are? Make it even by adding that to your argument. Its called John and Kate plus 8. Hes asian shes white, they have a million reallly cute kids. Maybe white girls should start going out with asian guys, because the cute kid factor has huge potential. But you can also feel better to why you dont like Asian girls all that much. Most Asian girls are very flat, and look like 12 year old boys.
That is possibly why asian girls date white guys. Anyway, I appreciate that this piqued so much interest, we at SAPL knew this would receive a lot of responses For Chris and Mike, you are both correct. And to answer why Asian men are seen as unattractive?
If we ask a similarly worded question with flavors of ice cream: Rate these ice cream flavors, 1 being the best to 5 being the least favorite: Though in the world today, Race will unfortunately always be an issue.
But really, it will always be up to you, at least when it comes to dating. I do find comments by some asian males here hypocritical when they say they dislike seeing white males with asian females yet would not have the same attitude if they saw an asian male with a white female. The last poster made me laugh, you must be around years old now. I do find history interesting and how society changes. About 69 percent of married Asian women are married to Asian men, while 25 percent of married Asian women have white husbands.
Nearly 45 percent of cohabiting Asian women have white partners, while less than 43 percent have Asian partners. Take a look at black males with asian female compared to asian males with black females where there is an even greater disparity.
If someone rejects you because of your race move on. Actually, some of us Asian men take satisfaction in the fact that the white men who date Asian women are in for a very nasty surprise: Seriously, it should be no wonder why Japan is the nation with the highest number of suicides in the world a sizable portion of which are middle-aged salarymen. I realize it sounds [ They usually dissed on Asian men, and their Asian side kick validate them.
They think because they date an Asian, they can speak for Asian people and stereotype them. I only have contempt for whites. So I am not against inter-racial relationship. I do wonder why Asian only date whites, and not other races.
They must have white envy or something, either that or they hate the way they look and wish to wash that out.
My status as an Asian-American woman is not enhanced or compromised by my marriage to a white guy. But this is a controversy in the Asian-American community. It does this to Asian-American women too, but the shock of dehumanizing women is still largely lost on American culture. Behind this argument is the idea that Asian-American men are somehow owed the companionship of an Asian or Asian-American woman.
That we ought to be with men of our own race if we truly feel Asian pride. How can we support Asian-American rights if we participate in white patriarchy through interracial marriage? But this argument forgets: Nobody owes anybody marriage or partnership.
Yes, white culture has long fetishized Asian women, long held them up as exotic prizes to be won by white men. Who do you think we are? There is a belief, largely perpetuated by certain Asian-American men, that Asian-American women who date and marry white men are opportunists trying to elevate themselves in white culture.
But what I find more insidious is the belief that an Asian-American woman cannot be a proper advocate for Asian-American rights if she has partnered with a white man. That it nullifies her advocacy and renders her a hypocrite. If anything, my marriage has made me double down, in no small part because of the people who question my Asianness.
Having an up-close perspective on how my husband and his family move through the world, versus how my family and I do, is eye-opening. I get a peek into the things they take for granted; the ease with which he and his brothers and sisters navigate most areas of American culture.