How come I can't get a girlfriend” is similar to “I own* a really nice In my experience, “nice guys” and “friendzone” are mostly a young-man's problem. . If you want a romantic relationship you have to stop being a coward. There is a direct correlation between 'nice guys' and the friend-zone. would a women want such a dysfunctional dating lifestyle and subsequent relationship?. Friend zones — the battle between nice guys and “not so nice guys” doesn't want to date a nice guy” or “she put me in the friend zone”.
Being with Mr Nice Guy becomes boring. Nice Guy is stagnant.
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It's like dating yourself. There's nothing to push up against, and ultimately we don't feel met. Being in a relationship with Mr.
Nice Guy is like dancing alone with no lead. Want to go to a movie tonight? Would it be okay if I cancelled our plans to meet the girls tonight? Oh my plans fell through tonight, are you available?
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Women don't want jerks, but they do want some flavor and some backbone. If a man is constantly agreeable, there's nothing to add flavor to our world and we might as well be solo. Which leads me to Pleasers. Pleasers don't express their moods or their opinions because they're so focused outside themselves desperately seeking approval. Pleasers become out of touch with what they really want and need because they're not tapped into who they really are or what they really feel.
But here's where the deception ultimately resides: Pleasers tend to be so scared of losing who they want, they set their own needs aside and deny what they feel in order to, well At first it's hard to decipher, but when we're is in a relationship with a pleaser or overly nice guy, eventually the truth behind his actions is revealed -- he's scared and he's needy.
Needy men give to get back versus giving from a place of truth inside their hearts. It's one thing to compromise within a relationship and want to make your partner happy, it's quite another to sacrifice your own needs. Needy men have no needs, except for the woman in front of them -- you!
What first appears to be adoration and romance, soon becomes suffocating. With needy men, there's a lack of groundedness that's palatable because needy men aren't truly embodied. They live outside themselves and try to enmesh with the other. We want to stretch. When we're with Mr Nice Guy or Mr. Pleaser, we feel selfish because there's no healthy way to match their over giving.
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We eventually feel stagnant because there's no one to grow along with in life. Suddenly we feel like the man and the woman in the relationships because we're calling all of the shots all of the time. When we're directing every aspect of our movie together, soon the pressure shuts us down. So what's the one thing needy men, Mr. Nice Guys and pleasers all have in common? And, because those guys crop up so often, women can get fooled by false positives.
Such guys make shitty boyfriends. This is because, by the time people reach 30, most know something about themselves. You have to put in the hours and the passion.
You need to find something that interests you because it interests you, devote yourself to it, serve it, become skilled at it, make it better, and reach a stage of confidence with it. And you need to learn how to share your passion for it with others. I want to waste a few more words on age: High-school girls are girls.
Amongst other things, that means that just as is the case with most high-school boysmany of them are shallow. Like all of us, they have to learn that by living and making mistakes.
Added to which, they exist in an environment of extreme peer pressure: And, most of the boys these girls get to choose from are not fully formed. Most are nervous and totally lacking in confidence, and they deal with this by either being total messes or by cloaking their self-esteem issues with overwrought bravado, arrogance, and bullying behavior.
Some young girls—because they lack experience—are fooled into thinking that latter type is confident. By they time they reach their mid-to-late 20s, they mostly realize their mistake and start dating different sorts of guys, which works out well, because many guys have matured by then, too.
And, of course, women can sense that. They wisely avoid those guys. Which makes them hate women even more.
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Mani Cavalieri This is another incarnation of a common question: It is not a special or unique phenomenon in dating culture — at least, not in the way that questions like these treat it. There is no set of conditions that you can meet that will make a woman obligated to return your feelings. For that matter, this is true for all people, not just women — but I see this attitude aimed at women more often than at men.
To borrow a phrasing that has stuck with me: Anonymous I have asked many women about this phenomenon I am a guy. And often the guy who is being nice and the woman who is friend-zoning him have a completely different story about what is happening and why. However the root cause underlying the nice-guy, friend-zone phenomenon is lack of authenticity.
These are all aspects of authenticity and personal power. The woman has no idea who this guy is, so there is no possibility of emotional connection.
And without emotional connection, there can be no desire or attraction. Also, by putting the woman on a pedestal, the guy is lowering himself. He signals that he sees himself as unworthy, and she agrees.
But what they mean is be your own person. Think about that for a second. You need to go back to the drawing board.